Blogger: Master Stones Princess - Configure Blog Posts

Blogger: Master Stones Princess - Configure Blog Posts

The lesson for today is to answer the question "Is it easy for you to be obedient? Why or why not". First I would like to answer the question is obedience a trait or a learned behavior. I have read it defined as both. I believe that obedience is a learned behavior. If you study a dominant male you will see he learns to be the alpha male. Growing up with a stern military father, obedience was very difficult. If he said yes I said no. you know the scenario. There was always something inside of me that made me feel that to obey was to give up my freedom of choice and my independence. I stayed in hot water at home and at school. So if you were to ask my parents they would tell you obedience was not a trait for me. As I grew I learned to be obedient at certain times in my life (like at work and obeying laws). All the while maintaining my independence and freedom of choice.
Now the connection between obedience in a D/s relationship and my independence is freedom of choice . I freely gave my obedience/submission to my Master ,therefore obedience should come easily. But it doesn't. Some days it does and some not. The difference in the day is whether I have unquestionable trust in my Master vs wondering "why is he asking me to do that or why is he being so stern." So I think the key to obedience for me is to meditate and maintain the right mindset. Not always easy for me to do consistently,but I am working on it.